Make Your Wardrobe One That Inspires You With The Assistance Of A Wardrobe Consultant

Do you have a wardrobe of clothes but none of them seem to excite you? 

Is your wardrobe bursting with the same type of clothes?

Do you avoid shopping for clothes because it’s a task you despise?

Do you know where to shop for things that work for you? 

 

If you’re uninspired by what is hanging in your wardrobe, then it’s high time you seek professional advice.

Hire a Wardrobe Consultant Sydney to upgrade your style with an inspirational wardrobe makeover. 

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You might ask – “How can a Professional Wardrobe Stylist Help Me?”

 

A wardrobe full of non-fitting, uninspiring, dated clothes is visual clutter. Plus, wearing anything that doesn’t give you joy can make you feel gloomy and invisible. This all changes when a wardrobe consultant steps in. 

A professional wardrobe consultant in Sydney will guide you to discover your unique style and show you the styles of clothing that work for your physical attributes. They will  even shop with you to ensure you find exactly what works for you.  First they edit your wardrobe to find any items you should keep, those you need to discard (I’m sure you already know these) and create a list of items that you need to buy to truly create a working wardrobe that you will love.

Depending on your body-shape, your style personality and budget, a wardrobe consultant ensures you end up with a wardrobe that is full of inspirational outfits. With their strategic approach to styling, you will perceive your body and your approach to clothing choices in a new improved way.

A wardrobe consultant will have you notice any habits you may have that won’t support how you wish to look and be perceived e.g. how you maintain your clothing and accessories etc.  You will learn clever ways to work your wardrobe by mixing and matching outfits to create even more looks – but with less clothes.  Wouldn’t you like to know how to pull together an ensemble you’ve created from items you already have that is that is a standout success?    

Professional wardrobe consultants don’t just randomly throw clothes on you. Instead, they consider your body basics, preferences, goals, needs, and feeling to curate a wardrobe that speaks “you”. They know where to find outfits that are tailored to fit you and your lifestyle. 

All-in-all, hiring a wardrobe consultant is a smart investment and you learn that shopping is no longer a chore or a bore – it’s fun!

By engaging a wardrobe consultant you will: 

  • always have the right outfits to wear to any event – whether business, or personal.  
  • never have to scramble at last minute for an outfit for those irregular events like weddings or any other important event. Stress gone!
  • enjoy the process of dressing on a daily basis. Everything you need at your fingertips to create outfits in the moment.
  • be given your own online ‘look-book’ of outfit ideas from the clothing you already have. Last minute choices already made for you – it doesn’t get better than that!
  • find you may have less clothes but more options – no ‘hidden’ gems not used; nothing that doesn’t inspire you; no nasty wire hangers that ruin your clothes – nothing but what works.

Ready to engage a wardrobe consultant to work through your wardrobe woes? 

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Self Love First Impression

SELF LOVE

We have often heard it said that we must love ourselves first before we can truly love others. I’m sure you’ve heard all the mantras about self-love.

Not so easy when life hands us stuff we would prefer not to have – be that a shabby start in life; a less than perfect relationship;  a physical challenge – the list is endless,  it’s easy to lose sight of the person we are, and who we are becoming.

I get it!  I had made some very bad decisions in my younger life, which led to heartbreak, lack of confidence in myself and my abilities to make a good life for myself.  I punished myself harshly for those decisions – telling myself that I deserved to suffer the consequences. It took a long time before I ‘woke up’ and realised just how amazing I was to have survived.  A new appreciation for who I was emerged and I started to love, forgive and accept myself.

But how easy is it to still experience self-love when things go radically wrong? 

Well – here’s the thing….what if we just get on with loving others anyway – even before we get around to ‘fixing’ ourselves? 

By doing unto others the things we should do for ourselves, isn’t that also giving to us as we connect with others?  It’s most often through other connections that we learn more about ourselves and able to see that we ARE worthy of love through the interaction of those we love first.  Food for thought.

I must tell you about a lovely client who had been gifted a Personal Branding program with me by her company.  She was unsure about why they offered this to her, and immediately wanted to back out, thinking that she had been singled out because of something she lacked.  I assured her that a company doesn’t invest in people unless they are worth investing in, saying “ … you must be doing something right for them to offer this to you. By the way, many organisations offer consultations like this to those they value….. so, congratulations!”   Her self-doubt seemed to diminish as she smiled and relaxed to engage in the program I’d planned for her. 

A small part of that plan was a shopping excursion to have her purchase 2-3 business appropriate clothing.  She had a voluptuous frame and had been wearing clothes that were unflattering and way too big for her. I asked her about this and said told me that she wanted to cover up her hips. She was focussing on areas of her body she didn’t like at all, yet by doing so – she was covering up the best parts of her too.  Isn’t that what we do when we are into self-loathing – focussing on negatives while forgetting the positives?

I knew immediately that I was going to have her see herself in a totally different way by the time we completed the session.  That involved showing her best features, curves and all. 

The first time she saw herself in something that fitted properly, revealing her Figure8 shape with the tapered hemline giving her a wonderful silhouette – she explained “Oh – I look amazing, I didn’t know I could look like this. I look beautiful.”.  She was so happy with herself, her face said it all.  I have followed her career path over the last year and I was delighted to find that she had taken up a senior position and had started a business degree.  She had regained her confidence and taken up her rightful place in the world again.

Sometimes we also need to stop and take stock of who we are in times of self-doubt.  To reflect on our achievements, what we have learned along the way, what we wouldn’t do again, and acknowledge what we have in our hearts.  It’s like seeing ourselves with a new set of eyes. 

How about taking some time to just sit, let your mind just slow and get reacquainted with who you really are. We all have the chance to start anew every day.  It’s completely in your hands to make the rest of your life the best of your life.

Love is everywhere!

Warmly Evelyn

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WELLBEING

We are all striving for that feeling of ‘Wellbeing’ – yes?

Yet why is this feeling of wellbeing so allusive for many?  We all want to feel we are on top of things and be happy and healthy.  Yet when that is not the case, the thought that life just keeps getting in the way is our backup excuse.

For those that are happy, comfortable, looking after their health and feel good in their soul – congratulations. That is what wellbeing is all about – being satisfied with life, experiencing a blissful state – nothing worthy of a mention that worries you.  I would really like to hear how you organised your life in such a way that have had you arrive at this significant state of being :-)

I am having longer moments in my life these days where this feeling of wellbeing is a reality.   

I guess I’m doing something right :-)

Yes … walking my 8000-10,000 steps a day (and I hear it helps ward off Alzheimer as one ages). I have feelings of immense gratitude for the things in my life that are very valuable to me ie my friends, my siblings, my partner, where I live in the world, the opportunities that come my way as a result of the relationships I have nurtured in my business, the love I feel coming from those I care about – I could go on.

But it wasn’t always that way.  There were moments where life felt that it couldn’t get any worse. I know many have been there too.  So, what does it take to dig out of that and start enjoying life again?  It takes a change of mindset to make a significant difference and that mindset turnaround can be bought on by a brick-wall moment – like “that’s it, no more, I’ve had enough of this”. Or it can be bought about by caring family and friends that show you that they care. 

For me, it was a series of personal development courses until I’d had enough of them to last a life-time yet, I had epiphanies that set me back on track.  One of them was to realise that my body had to be taken care of – that I was born with the body I had to support me through the challenges I would face, and also allow me to express my gifts to the world.  That might sound a bit Woo Woo to you – but it was my realisation that if I didn’t look after my body, I was never going to feel a sense of well-being.

When you feel well, you feel more powerful, in control and a sense of satisfaction and excitement for life.  It’s not attached to things – not to the amount of money you have saved or what you are worth, nor to the posh school you might have attended, or the type of car you drive. We will attach the important aspects of life linked to our value system that we judge ourselves and others by.  Some people will place their close connections with others above all else while someone else could place their career above all else. If you have the job you have always dreamed about – then your sense of wellbeing will be positively affected.

When you drill down to what ‘wellbeing’ is all about and the factors that may influence it (both internal and external) then we can develop a roadmap for ourselves to achieving, or maintaining it.

If you’re not ‘feeling it’ – here’s a short list of things that are worth looking at as possible inclusions into your daily living.

  • Engage in a new hobby or something that engages all your concentration and, when completed will give you a sense of pride and achievement. eg learn how to paint, get started on a huge jigsaw puzzle with a friend, learn how to fly (well, maybe….). But you know what I mean.
  • Get involved with a walking group or similar.  Enjoy tennis?  Pull out that old Prince racquet and start swinging :-D
  • Plan an ideal weekend away from everything and do whatever takes your fancy.  Read that book you’ve meant to get around to for ages; play golf if that is your thing; go dancing – whatever the weekend opportunities are – just embrace the time you have given to yourself.
  • You’ve got to eat well.  Cut the carbs, the sugars, fatty takeaways, and start on a healthy eating plan.  Your body will love you.
  • Get enough sleep – 8 hours is average so try to get at least 7-8 hours of rest.
  • Stay mindful to how you feel and what you are thinking at the time if feeling down.  Negative thoughts can creep in uninvited and before you know it, they have you thinking crazy things that are most improbable but you entertain them anyway.  Stop – take stock and change your thinking.

    Here’s to feeling on top of the world.  It really is about mindset and valuing the things that are often taken for granted.  It’s about being grateful for everything including what you have achieved and experienced (good or bad) because you are who you are as a result of all of it. 

    Go look in the mirror – and thank yourself for being the individual person you are. Because you are imperfectly perfect.

    Love

    Evelyn 

     

The secret to looking chic

The secret to looking chic

Let’s face it – dressing for the day is often the most heroic thing one does for that day.

You’ve got to brave a wardrobe full of clothes on an empty stomach and once dressed and out the door, it’s too late to go fix an outfit malfunction. You’re wearing something that would work well on someone a smidgen smaller. Your hair needs some tender loving care – (looking for the hairdresser’s number…) and what? The same jewellery you’ve been wearing for decades?

Nooo – we’re not talking about YOU. But have you noticed that all the ‘how-to’ tips always seem to be for someone else?

When was the last time you really admired your reflection in a full length mirror? I remember a time when I had so many clothes in my wardrobe, it took an age to get dressed because of the endless choices I had. Far from making things easier when dressing, adding multiple alternatives can make dressing a whole lot more difficult. Like freedom – choice demands an elevated level of dexterity.

Funnily enough, fashion magazines are ‘rediscovering’ a more understated sense of style and sophistication (thank you Mad Men) but are calling it dressing with ease. But if you expect ‘easy dressing’ to be easy – you could be out of luck. Easy-dressing was much easier when work schedules and wardrobes were not stuffed to the hilt. It’s hard enough just to hand-write a simple thank-you note let alone schedule a hair appointment. How come people can efficiently use a myriad of computer programs but still can’t work out how to put a smart and efficient wardrobe together. By doing so with just a few well chosen basics and some fun elements – they can look so ‘put together’ and at the same time – save a ton of money, enjoy wearing their clothing and know that each item earns it’s keep after the purchase.

This is where fashion can play on our insecurities and frustrations – reminding us of what’s ‘wrong’ with us. It’s relentless quest for the next new thing – only reinforces the sense of what’s now old.

My suggestion is to leave fickle fashion to the 20 something year olds – and go for simple Chic!

  • Discover – or perhaps rediscover, your true sense of style.
  • Go for simplicity, elegance and glamour.
  • Go for quality tailoring and luxe fabrics.
  • Buy only quality clothes that look fabulous on you.
  • Buy only what you need – (oh well – perhaps one or two ‘have-to-haves’).
  • Get an updated hairstyle that really suits you – and is easy to manage.
  • If something you wear pokes or scratches someone who hugs you – hurl it!
  • Don’t wear anything you can’t describe in 10 words or less.
  • Buy less and enjoy more. It’s the next best thing to ‘having nothing to wear’ J

This foolproof list works for me – and it will for you particularly if you have to face a full wardrobe first thing in the morning on an empty stomach.

Now when you finish getting dressed and look at yourself in a full length mirror – I guarantee you will think to yourself “Not bad – not bad at all!”

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Visually Impress

Are you a presenter? Speaker? Speechmaker?

You’re got the content? Check. Rehearsed the delivery? Check. But is your visual presentation supporting you? Whether you’re delivering a speech at a wedding or a keynote address at a company conference, we have a few tips on presenting yourself to ensure you don’t distract your audience with ‘visual noise’.

Let your presentation shine… NOT your nose, forehead or the parts where hair once grew.  It’s hard to look confident and credible when you’re glowing like a beacon. A light dusting with translucent powder works wonders.

The Ghost that speaks… are your features disappearing? Remember, what has impact in the mirror, maybe bland at a distance or under certain lighting.  Eyebrows which enhance facial expression, often need greater definition; your face may require shading to look 3D. Lipsticks on women need to be darker or brighter, and eye makeup more pronounced, especially if you’re wearing glasses. Both genders: wear non-reflective lenses.

I’m planning a ‘sickie’… does what you’re wearing near your face suit your skin tone? Unflattering shades will give your skin a greenish or greyish tinge.  Learn what suits you by getting professional colour advice.

Where are you? Is your outfit merging with the stage background or wall colour? Know in advance the colour of the background, and make sure you can be seen! Conversely, do not let your clothing speak louder than you! Once it’s on, you can’t just turn the volume down on a garment that’s upstaging you. First Impressions Image offers specific advice and training to speakers, presenters and entertainers on all aspects of their visual presentation.

Firstly, decide on a realistic budget for your most visible professional overhead – your business wardrobe. Buy basics like suits, jackets, pants (women: + skirts) that are very good quality – so that they last and look good wear after wear –  thus making it possible to build a wardrobe that works.

There is nothing worse than ill-fitting clothing. If the shoulder / hip / neck areas fit well – then with minimal alteration the wearer can get the fit perfect by using a recommended tailor / alteration centre for hems, sleeves and side seams.

Add inexpensive fashion items like business tops &/or shirts in new season colours, as well as fun yet appropriate jewellery pieces (Men: incl. cuff-links) to create interest and allow for self expression.

Always ensure that hair, shoes, jewellery items and shirts or tops are impeccably maintained and up-to-date.  These support otherwise ‘aging’ business basics that are scheduled to be ‘retired’ soon.

Get assistance if unsure about what works for you – engage the services of a respected image consultant.  They are worth their weight in gold.
If you’re wondering if it is worth the cost – try this… Add up the cost of all the clothes in your wardrobe you don’t wear (for whatever reason). NOW do you think it worth it?
Just a thought….!

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The Art Of French Dressing

No – this is not an article on how to make French dressing for salads.  Perhaps the title of this article should be “The Art Of Dressing – French-style”.  But all that aside, I whole-heartedly agree with the ten tips that were offered for dressing ‘French-style’.  They’re listed below and as Chantal Blanchet, owner of Chantal B fashion store in Sydney says ..  “Consider yourself a work of art. The secret to exuding the charm and confidence of the French women is attitude; the clothes are just there to help.”

Top Ten Tips for Dressing French-Style

1. Dress well every day and buy one or two key items of the best quality you can afford each season. Go for classics such as a tailored jacket, a Breton boat-neck navy-and-white striped T-shirt, a classic shift, shirt dress or linen trousers.
2. Mix affordable fashion trends with investment pieces – a casual T-shirt with a classic trench is effortlessly French.
3. Invest in a few signature pieces of jewellery, such as a string of pearls or earrings, an oversized bangle or a cuff, to give your outfit a French edge.
4. Buy quality shoes; French women never wear cheap shoes. Every French wardrobe requires classic ballet flats.
5. Wear a beautiful (silk) scarf all year to make like a Parisian. Or tie one on your handbag.
6. Adopt a sense of dress-ups. French women are not afraid to be daring with clashing colours, accessories and vintage pieces (a la Vanessa Paradis pictured).
7. Embrace your age: French women see growing older as a privilege that means you can dress as you like.
8. Wear beautiful, comfortable underwear, always. French, naturally.
9. Organise your wardrobe efficiently and take photographs of different outfits that can be mixed and matched.
10. Good grooming is essential. Style your hair (try a Tautou up-do), always wear lipstick and take Coco Chanel’s lead and never leave the house without fragrance.
Well stated Chantal..bravo!

(Article from smh by Natasha Silva-Jelly)

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Your Personal Brand Is Showing – during every waking hour!

Whoa!  Does your personal brand need reassessment? Not getting the recognition or job advancement you think you deserve? Feel that opportunities are passing you by? Here’s the rub – don’t look ‘out there’ for the answers, although it might be worthwhile asking a few people you trust for some honest feedback on the impression they have of you. You need to look ‘inside’ to find out what is really going on. Are you valuing yourself? Living purposefully? Honouring your highest values? Taking time for yourself? Dreaming big dreams?

Because people will form opinions of you based on the very superficial visual and behavioural messages you leave them with. Don’t complain – what else have they got to go by? Your work ethic? The time you get to and leave work? The amount of work you get through?  Well – these things won’t cut it if you are looking haphazard, lack-lustre, dishevelled and lacking in energy. Worse still if the things you wear and carry are in the same condition. If this is the case – then move over for the up-and-coming ‘living purposefully’ hot-shots hard on your heels. YOU are about to be over-taken, left in the dust, forgotten in the bleachers. That is – unless you want to take serious stock of where you are at – and what you are willing to do to get you back on track.

Here are a few – yes, superficial… tips that will have you looking at your reflection in the mirror and seeing yourself once again in the role you either want to hang onto, or the one you aspire to. Or is it that you want to feel attractive again?

Tip 1 – Reality Check

Depending on your immediate agenda….e.g. want that promotion? want that job? Want to attract a life partner? etc. Then get dressed for whatever it is that you want to attract. For example – if you want that promotion – get into your best business attire,  if you want a life partner or want to put some life into an existing relationship – get into your most appealing outfit.

Now go get a paper bag – and put it over your head – leaving two holes so that you can ‘see’ yourself without actually seeing your face – I know – this sounds crazy, but do it anyway. Now stand in front of a full length mirror and take a good hard look at yourself.  Would you be attracted to ‘this person’?  If you met yourself at a business event or at a party – would you be impressed? You see, when you cover your face – you take the ‘me’ part out of the visual picture which makes it easier to actually assess honestly what you see. Now making sense?

This can be a ‘moment of truth’ for many people. If you are not satisfied with the image staring back at you – you have work to do. Congratulations to those who are happy with the reflection they see.

Tip 2 – Toss the Tossers

Do yourself a favour – and go to your wardrobe and toss everything that doesn’t make you feel attractive when you put it on.  Go on … toss all those nasty pilled shrunken sweaters, tracky-daks, oversizes T-s, flag-daddy shorts, anything oversized/undersized, washed out rags and those truly ugly shoes that look like old boats in Hong Kong harbour. Get rid of them out of your life!! Now.

Feel better?  Like in relationships – you can’t attract the ‘new’ into your life without first getting rid of the ‘old’ :-) Oh – and don’t think about passing them onto your friends or rellies, because they won’t want them either. You are allowed a few old T’s to keep as polish cloths if you must.

Tip 3 – DIY or Engage an Image Consultant

If you can, create a list of must-haves you need to buy. Be honest. New suit? Two new suits? A fabulous dress ladies? Something appealing, alluring and yet classy?  List everything you need. Don’t be put off by the length of the list – you can prioritise it and get the essentials now and the no-so-urgent things in the next few pay-cheques. If this is too daunting, then do yourself a favour and engage a recommended image professional who will take all the hard work out of this for you. No – I’m not talking about those shop-floor attendants who are now labelled as stylists. They may only know how to show you clothes…and more clothes to try on (more about this in another blog post).  No – you need someone to work WITH you who will keep an eye on your current role/s, your goals. your preferred style/s and natural colour direction.

There are more Essential Branding Tips to follow. Visit us again in the next few days – looking forward to your comments.

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How to apply lipstick to make it last

Second only to your eyes, your mouth is the central focus for communication.  Lipstick is all about directing attention to the face, and in business  – that’s where it should be.

Make-up in the business world has only two purposes:  to make you look healthier and more vibrant, and to accentuate your best features.  It is not about glamour or seduction.  It should be remembered that the context is business – after hours is your affair.

When make-up is well applied, it enhances a woman’s professional image considerably.  It says:  polished, well groomed,  and attention to detail.

Consistency is just as important.  Even if make-up is applied well, if a woman is inconsistent with its use on a day to day basis, it suggests that she is indifferent, frivolous, and unstable.

Choosing the correct colour

Lip colour is the finishing touch to your make-up and should compliment your skin tone – and the clothes you wear (assuming they are also the correct best colours for you).  If you are not sure, check in with a colour consultant to be sure.  The session could also rescue you from the eternal black syndrome.  If you are not in the habit of wearing lipstick, start with a more natural tone.

To get great looking lips, you need a lip pencil in a natural colour or similar shade to your lipstick and a lip brush to apply the colour.

The seven-step lipstick cure

Step 1: When applying your foundation, also apply over your lips, blot with a tissue and allow a moment to dry.

Step 2: Dust lightly with face powder

Step 3: Outline line your lips with the lip pencil starting with the cupids bow (the V in the centre top lip).

Step 4: Fill in entire lip area lightly with the lip pencil all over your lips before applying your lipstick.  It helps your lipstick last much longer.

Step 5: Work the lipstick colour into your lip brush and apply, avoiding the lip-liner.

Step 6: Blot off excess lip colour with a tissue. This helps to ‘hold’ the colour and prevent smearing.

Step 7: Re-apply lipstick to achieve a gloss finish if you prefer this look.

And for those who have very thin lips, outline your lips just outside the natural line with the lip pencil.  Use a brighter shade or a rich gloss to make lips appear fuller.

For those who wish to play down very full lips, pencil the lip-line just inside the natural lip line.  Avoid glosses and very bright colours, and blot off any extra sheen.

Voila – there you have it!

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Sabotaging Yourself? Email Blunders And What To Do About It!

It is amazing to find that some people have no idea as to how important their email communications are and what can be assumed about a person based on what they divulge in an email.  I advise companies to adopt an email policy that will give them an ‘edge’ on their competitors and at the same time,protects them from awkward liability issues.  Listed are some email blunders that occur so often in business.

The Blunt Emailer:
“Need that print-out from you.  Urgent.  When you go out, can you get me a coffee, 1 sugar”

General comment:
This is way too blunt no matter how well you know the recipient.  Respect for others in the workplace is essential if you want to build rapport and keep work relationships healthy.  People give more when they feel respected.

What it says about the sender:
Lacks respect for the subordinate or workmate. Unprofessional, uncaring, rude. Sens mixed messages.

Why it is bad to have this e-ttitude:
Not only can it be intimidating for those who work in close proximity, it lowers the professionalism of the department &/or company. It can have an adverse affect on marol and output.  It can build bad feelings within a department.

How to improve next time:

Don’t make demands and ask for favours in the same breath.

The conversation could go like this:  “That printout is required urgently. How soon would you be able to give that to me?”

or

“Would you mind doing that print-out for me as soon as you can as it’s now urgent?”

A separate email request regarding the coffee could go  “Would you mind picking me up a coffee with one sugar if you are going that way?”  Be prepared to offer the same favour for your workmate at other times.

The Nuisance Emailer:

Helllllllllooooooooo!  Aren’t you going to say hi today?  Any, check out these pics from the party!  The one of so-and-so co-worker is sooooo funny!  Can’t stop laughing.  What’s new? xx”

General comment:
This is way to familiar an email for the workplace. Emails should be brief, to the point and should not be eliciting idle comment from a co-worker.

What is says about the sender:
Immature. Lacks respect for follow workers, especially around boundaries and their time.  Assumes familiarity with the recipient that may not be there.  Has little regard for priorities.

Why it is bad to have this e-ttitude:
This sort of e-ttitude will affect this person’s reputation across the board.  It will be difficult for anyone to take this person seriously, and one should be wary of trusting this person with one’s personal details.

How to improve next time:
Eliminate over-friendly banter in the workplace altogether.  Being friendly, polite and respectful will build trust with follow-workers and the boss.  If sharing photos of the work-party – keep the photos appropriate, and send them only if requested to do so. Otherwise notify by email that you have copies and if anyone is interested in receiving them, to indicate this to you.

Send them with short explanation in subject line e.g. Subject: Photos of Friday evening. And restrain yourself from comment on any of the photos. Do not ask for, or expect a response from those receiving the email.

The Needy Emailer:
“I get the feeling you aren’t talking to me. You haven’t said hi to me for the past two days, and I’m trying to figure out what I’ve done to annoy you.  Can we have a talk?”

General comment:
It is very inappropriate to express a personal concern by email.

What it says about the sender:
This person sounds and acts immature, hesitant and lacking in confidence. The whiney edge to this email is a credibility breaker.

Why is it bad to have this e-ttitude:
Trying to put a guilt trip on a co-worker shows poor jedgement, a lack of propriety and a neediness that can be very annoying and sometimes intimidating.  This will affect this person’s standing with co-workers and the boss if he/she hears about this.

How to improve next time:
If there is a concern that one may have over-stepped the mark or offended, don’t address this or any other concern in an email.  Address the issue personally and make a time (preferably out of work hours) to meet with the other person on neutral territory so that your conversation is out of earshot of co-workers and the issue can be discussed and sorted out amicably.  Always have a satisfying outcome in mind before the meeting so that when you DO meet, you already have a positive mindset. There is nothing more off-putting than a ‘cap-in-hand’ approach.

The Terrified Emailer:
“Hello, Mary.  I’m so sorry to bother you, I know you’re really busy and you don’t have time for annoying people like me!  However, I was just wondering if we might be able to go through my ideas this morning at some stage?  If not, don’t worry, I just thought I’d ask. Sorry to be annoying!”

General comment:
This is so apologetic and assumes the worst situation so much so that it actually creates the situation. There are people I’ve met like this and I want to slap them.

What it says about the sender:
Totally lacking in confidence.  Doesn’t trust people nor their own judgement. They put other people down in a covert way without realising it e.g. you are bothered by my interruption; you don’t have time for me; you think I’m annoying etc.

A covert controller perhaps?

Why it is bad to have this e-ttitude:
This type of behaviour will undermine this person’s professional standing and personal relationships. They come over as capital ‘L’ for looser and will be ignored &/or taken advantage of.

Stop the negative thinking. It’s not all about YOU!  Appreciate your strengths. List the areas that need attention and do something about it. Find a mentor.  Seek counselling. Do unexpected things for other people WITHOUT expecting a response, acknowledgement or thank you.  And get an updated image (hair, apparel, accessories). A serious change is needed here – and it’s the visual change that gets noticed first.

How to improve next time.
The Insecure Emailer:
“Do you think my latest report was terrible? Will I get fired? PLUS, I’ve been late for the last two days. Oh God. Have you heard anything?

General comment:
This is so inappropriate. Also when asking for a response with a negative outlook, you are sure to get negative feedback, if not directly in an email, but future responses from the recipient of your initial email.

Lacking self control, lacking in self confidence, erratic, drama-queen. Too self aware, overly self indulgent. “It’s all about me.”

Why it is bad to have this e-ttitude:

People will not take this person seriously. If they can’t control these sorts of outbursts, their career path will be stymied – no future. Submitting a report where one expects it to be viewed in a negative way is nothing short of incompetent.

What is says about the sender:
Get a grip, get serious about your position and the job at hand. Be prudent, think carefully before opening your mouth, and never send pathetic emails like this again.

How to improve next time:
Hey babe! Can I get that info from you this morn?  Don’t tell Boss I was late – hot date went a little too sell last night! xxxxxxxx

The Overly Familiar Emailer:
General comment:
Way too familiar with a co-worker. Sending bad signals from woe (literally) to go about personal life

What it says about the sender:
Poor judgement, lacking self control, no respect for co-workers, the company or the ‘date’, lier (work hours) cheater (the organisation), very gushy, pushy and annoying.

Why it is bad to have this e-ttitute:
No one could trust this person to do the decent thing. Unprofessional conduct in work hours and poor conduct outside of work hours reflects badly on the individual and those they associate with.

How to improve next time:
Keep your private life to yourself – never discuss at work under any circumstances. Never call a co-worker by any name other than their own. Babe is a major put-down. Asking someone to not tell the boss something assumes that they would have done so – thus putting them down at your level.  This is disrespectful to all concerned.  x-kisses should never be seen on any email sent to co-workers or to anyone’s business email address – EVER. For that matter, it’s a bit passe on any email. Family and close friends would be the exception.

Footnote:  Check your email etiquette and if any of the above examples relate to you – stop immediately. Your future is at stake!

shopping

10 Cool Shopping Tips

Keep your objectives in mind to dodge the impulsive buys.
Know what you already have, what you intend to get, and know the specifications. The specifications? you may ask. If you don’t know them, you need to see us. These involve knowing exactly what suits your body shape and proportions, and your colouring – essential for smart shopping.

Set aside the time you need
A credit card and a lunch hour are usually insufficient for making a smart purchase. Leaving it to the last moment is like buying an umbrella on a wet day. Diarise the time needed.

Be awake, aware and alive!
Tuck away a bottle of mineral water – dehydration dulls the brain.

Ensure you do not have distracting and competing needs arising from hunger, tiredness or the demands of a friend or children.

Have a light meal before the excursion and wear comfortable shoes for the walking part.

Check out the store/s
Certain stores should set off warning bells almost immediately. They will usually be inadequately lit and have few or no mirrors until you get to the change room. It goes almost without saying that sales assistants have a target to meet and that you need to keep the purpose of your shopping excursion firmly in mind. Tell them what you are looking for, what you need it for and your (correct) size. If they don’t listen – then leave.

Know your budget
Our advice is always to go for the best quality you can afford at the time. A high quality, practical item which lasts and doesn’t date can be more cost-effective than one which seemed a bargain at the time but gets little wear over its short life span.

Questions to ask yourself if shopping for sales items
would I consider buying it if it were not on sale?
am I compromising quality, fit or appropriateness for price?
will I have to spend too much on alterations to make this fit?
will I be able to combine it with at least two other items I own?
Be realistic about weight gain and weight loss

If you are heavier than you would like to be, forget about buying too-small sizes that will fit once you ‘lose the weight’. You could be diverting your resources to a hope rather than benefiting in the immediate, practical present.

Put function before fashion
Avoid clothing which follows the latest fashion trend unless you have the means to renew your wardrobe frequently.

Dress for the shopping experience – or risk the ‘Pretty Woman’ encounter.
You will be given the service and respect your deserve when you step into a store looking well turned out.

Oh – and take with you…..

  • your colour direction reference swatch
  • the shoes you need for the outfit/s you intend to buy your wits!
  • … and wear your best supportive underwear.

On the other hand – you might simply prefer to call us and let us do all the thinking and planning for your best summer wardrobe yet. Call us if this appeals to you.